Saturday, October 16, 2010

Right To Privacy

A few days ago, I was listening to the Michael Baisden show on the radio. The topic was "How much privacy should you allow your kids to have". I was surprised at a lot of the responses from kids and parents. Many of the kids threatened their parents -"they better not touch my touch". Parents who said they only looked at things that were left out or open. Hmmmmmm.... Michael Baisden asked "if it were a matter of life and death would you search your child's room". Again, the responses were varied and they were out there.

Well, let me say this.. I go thru Man-child's room, his back-pack, his closet, the dresser, and under the bed. I read his text messages on his phone. I go thru the history on his computer to see the sites he visits. I also discuss everything I find with him and the reason why I continue to do so.

If you don't know what your child is doing, how can you complain when they do something you don't agree with. I asked Man-child what he thought about me going thru his things and he said "that's what parents are supposed to do". When I asked him to explain "he said that some kids lie to their parents and the parents have to know what their kid is doing". When I asked him if it bothered him, he just hunched his shoulders.

What do you think?

6 comments:

  1. The only privacy my kids are entitled to is when they are naked, otherwise everything else is free range. I will do a random search without warning, because kids lie and they will hide stuff. Seriously, I don't have the time for the nonsense or being caught off guard because I wasn't doing my job as a parent.

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  2. I probably have a few years before I have to do this because my babies are still babies (4years and 5 months) but I will be all about keeping up with all their business. As parents, we have to do our best to protect them. I agree with the first post as it pertains to nudity, but beyond that we have to parent them fully or who knows how they will end up. I think they earn privacy when they are out on their own.

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  3. I'm in total agreement. Privacy from parents is dangerous. There are too many crazy people in the world. Kids get involved in things before they look both ways and it can be harmful to them. If we don't check as parents we can't keep guiding them on safer journeys. Samantha had a situation where a girl was getting hurt and told her and made her promise not to tell. Samantha told the girl she wouldn't tell anyone but her mother. The girl got upset and ask her why. Samantha told her because you don't keep secrets from your parents. She called me on the cell and said, "Mommy, if someone tells you not to tell something, you still tell your parents, right?" My response, "That's right, baby." :)

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  4. I LOVE Man-Childs attitude and you keep on keeping on till you feel he can handle things on his own then do a "spot check" from time to time..to keep him on edge LOL

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  5. I agree with you. I wish a kid I'm feeding, clothing and putting a roof over their head threatened me about going through their things. Hmpf. That's why the parents be looking all crazy after their kid had blown up or shot up a school. Manchid knows what's up.

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  6. I wish my child would tell me I betta not go through their stuff. My house...my rules.

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