Last week, while sitting in a meeting, I received a 911 text from Man-child. I immediately got up and went in the hall to call him.
Me: Hey. What’s wrong?
MC: Ma, I don’t think I can do this anymore
Me: Geoff, what’s wrong.?
MC: *sigh* I’m not doing well in math
Me: What’s the problem?
MC: I got two “Cs, a “D” and a “F”
ME: Did you go to the tutor
MC: Well, she was 20 min late and I only get 45 min with her.
So, you can see where this conversation was going.
I tried to explain that it’s all part of adjusting. College math is different than high school math – he just needs to be patient, talk to the instructor and maybe look for another tutor. Man child was not ready to hear it. He said that he would prefer to drop it and not ruin his GPA. He stated that he does not want to take this course over and have to stay in school an extra year. I explained that the goal is to finish in 4 years; but realistically, most people finish in 5 years. I told him not to look or think of that right now – just take one semester at a time. I told him that most freshmen go through this. I have faith that he can do this and that things will turn around.
I asked about his other classes and he said he was passing in them but since he has been putting in extra time studying math, he is afraid that his grade are going to drop. We went over some things that may help and I told him that I was glad he recognized that he was having a problem and has been addressing it. Again, I stressed for him to go back and talk to the instructor and to request another tutor. He sighed very heavily and said “OK”. I told him that I LOVED HIM and to remember that “ NO Weapon formed against us will Prosper”.. He laughed and said he had to get to his next class.
When I went back to the meeting, all I could do was think of my Man child. I did not call him for a few days. I did get my support group, my friend Stephanie (who was his first grade teacher) and cousin Jay, to give him a call of support. Man child called three days later and simply said things were ok and that he had another tutor. I told him I was proud of him and to just say the word and I will come on the campus and straighten those folk out. He laughed and said "please don't". He was OK.
Praying for Man child